For the Boys

In today’s society, there is a lot of emphasis on feminism and women’s rights, rightfully so. However, in the fight for gender equality, we can forget about our male counterparts. We get so caught up in being heard, being treated with respect, and being treated fairly (as we should), that we forget to remember that guys need to be reminded of their worth sometimes too. The goal of feminism isn’t to prove that women are better than men; the goal is for men and women to be treated equally. When we try to make our cause heard by putting men down, we are no better than the misogynists who try to hold us down. So this post is for the boys, because no one tells you these things nearly enough.

You don’t need to be 6’ tall and have a six pack to be good looking. You boys are perfect at all shapes and sizes. Not every girl is looking for the tall and muscular build; some of us like the soft, teddy bear boys, some of us like the short and stocky boys, and some of us like the tall and thin. As with women, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes for men too. Don’t forget that.

Your facial hair does not define your masculinity. You are just as manly when you are clean shaven. Just as make up doesn’t define my femininity, whether or not you have a beard shouldn’t change people’s opinion of you. Wear your face however you like.

You have as much right to your child as women do. You helped make that beautiful life, and that child is half you. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are not as important to your child as his/her mother is. He/she needs you just as much as his/her other parent. No one has the right to tell you any differently.

Male rape victims deserve the same treatment and attention as female rape victims. No one deserves to be raped, including men. If you are raped, it is not your fault. Let me say that again for the people in the back: IF YOU GET RAPED IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. It is equally as horrifying as a female victim, regardless of what gender was your rapist. It is still a heinous crime, and you should not be held responsible for that. You are every much as a victim as a female is, and have a divine right to be treated as such.

It’s okay for you to have mental health problems. Having depression, anxiety, or anything else does not make you weak. Having the courage to admit and face your problems makes you strong. You should be treated with respect, not matter what kind of help you need.

It’s okay for you to be sensitive. It does not make you any less of a man. You have emotions for a reason, so don’t be afraid to let them show. It’s okay to cry when you’re sad, or to feel hurt, or even to feel unloved and lonely. You are a human being with feelings, and you should be allowed to express them any way you want to.

You deserve to be treated as a king as much as I deserve to be treated like a queen. If a girl expects you to treat her like a princess, then she better be fully prepared to treat you like a prince, because you are worth that. Don’t ever forget that you deserve a fairy tale life just as much as she does. You should never have to prove your worth to someone, because you are human being. This means you have just as much worth as every other human being on this planet. Don’t forget that. You are a king.

You don’t always need to be the knight in shining armor. It’s perfectly acceptable if you need saving too. It’s okay for you to need help from someone else once in awhile. Don’t feel like you always need to be on the white horse- it’s okay to take off your armor once in awhile and be vulnerable. Sometimes you need someone to save you just as much as I sometimes need someone to save me. A girl or another boy can be your knight too.

You deserve everything you want in this life. Whether it’s a job, a relationship, a family, whatever it is, you deserve it. Don’t let anybody tell you that you don’t deserve something you want. You deserve the world just as much as I do. Don’t be afraid to chase it.

I have always stood for gender equality. The way road to feminism should not be paved by putting men down. We are all people and deserve to be treated as such. While you continue to fight for the female voice to be heard, make sure you aren’t smother the male voice. They need to be heard too. In some ways, they need gender equality just as much as we do. Treat everyone with respect, and we can build a better world. Spread love not hate, and never stop striving to be the person you want to be.


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